If you want to vastly change your world, personal or professional, the number one way to do it is in developing your Human Relations skills (relationships with and between people). “15% of one’s financial success is due to one’s technical knowledge and about 85% is due to skill in human engineering – to personality and the ability to lead people.” (Dale Carnegie)
That being said, what are you doing to build your Human Relations muscles? It is something that needs to be worked on continually, yet it does not need to be complicated. Here are ten things you can do to build these critical muscles:
- Speak to people. Start with words like: Hello, Good Morning, Thank You. I know this sounds a bit strange but you might be surprised at how little people talk nowadays versus stare at their technology.
- Smile. Easy to do and really goes a long way.
- Call people by name. Take the time to learn people’s names and you will see the positive shift in their connection with you.
- Be genuinely interested in people and their story. When you ask, you will be wowed by the stories people have to share. Human beings truly are resilient and amazing.
- Do something to help. Ask “how can I help you?” There is nothing more heart-warming so we don’t have to do it all on our own.
- Care. Yes, it’s that simple. Just care about others and it will take you a very long way.
- Be the first to praise and the last to criticize. Too often it is the other way around. It is easy to find more opinions and criticisms. Be the first to offer praise and tell many. Spread the positive instead of the negative. There is always something positive to say.
- Walk away. If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all. Constructive feedback to help someone learn and grow is very helpful. Venting, complaining or being critical is not helpful at all.
- Say thank you often. Make appreciation infectious. Think of all kinds of ways to say and do appreciation so people truly feel it.
- Count your blessings frequently, seeing the good in every situation. We always collect evidence. You can collect evidence of everything that is wrong or you can collect evidence of everything that is right. Which will make you and others happier?
“Human relations are built on feeling, not on reason or knowledge. And feeling is not an exact science; like all spiritual qualities, it has the vagueness ofgreatness about it.” ~ Amelia Barr
When you are ready for greatness in your life, build your Human Relations muscles. It will only give you more of all the things you most want.
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